The Success Doctor

Focus on What YOU Want

Usually I suggest to clients that they focus on what they do want and not on what they don’t want however although it’s important to know what you do want it’s also important to know what you don’t want in life/business.

Knowing this clearly is very important to your standing and values in life. 

Do you have clearly defined boundaries? 
Do you come from a place of integrity?  If you say you’re going to be somewhere or do something do you follow through?
Are you taking care of yourself or do you say yes to everyone else even when you want to say no? 
Do you take responsibility when something happens that could have been avoided or do you throw it back on the other person and get defensive?
Are you acting instead of re-acting to life in general?

If you can honestly, without fudging say yes to all of the above then you and your values are in a great place.    If you say no to any of them you probably still have some work to do and you need to become more consciously aware of your behavior so you have a way to create new habits.

There are no rights or wrongs yet we can live life differently if we pay attention to those things that are not working for us and make little changes.

Do you check your bank accounts regularly?

Happy New Year everyone!

My apologies for not writing for the past few weeks!   The holidays got crazy, I had visitors from the UK and then I got sick.  What can I say other than life sometimes gets in the way.

Then to top it off I found out I was the victim of bank fraud and someone had managed to forge checks and my signature and steal $6,000 from one of my bank accounts.  It’s not even about the money because the bank puts it back however it is scary to think it’s that simple!  Over a period of 24 hours they went to an out of area branch and cashed six separate checks amounting to nearly $6,000.

I found out quite by accident.  A bill I had paid didn’t go through and the bank wrote and told me there wasn’t enough money in the account.  I went online and checked and lo and behold there it was, or rather there it wasn’t.  I usually check my accounts online at least twice weekly however with the holidays, guests and getting sick I didn’t.  I learned a huge lesson and found out from the bank that every bank has this challenge 2-3 times a day.

Whether in business or personally please keep a close watch on your bank accounts.   Apparently it’s easier than we might think!

I also learned that online bill pay according to my bank is less safe than paying bills by check!

Anyway I just wanted to share this with you in the hope that you will check your accounts regularly so that this doesn’t happen to you.

‘Til Next Time
Joy and Blessings

 

PS.  On March 10th I am starting a brand new 10 week relationship success program on the phone for single, divorced and widowed people to find “The Love of Their Lives and The Life that They Love.”   If this is something you think you or someone you know might be interested in please sent an email to info@sayyestoyoucoaching.com with the word relationship success in the subject line so that you are notified first when the details get sent out.

Are you Ready for 2009??

This will be the last blog entry for this year.  I’m taking a vacation, yeeeah :)  My family is arriving from the UK (yes, I’m originally from the UK) on December 20th and Say Yes To YOU Coaching is closed from December 19th – January 2nd.  

If you have messages in your head that are getting in your way re-write the story.  If you feel disappointed by anything that has happened or you regret something or you’ve been hurt or are angry about something take the time to identify the feelings and what they are associated with by writing everything down and then make a conscious decision to let them go.  It’s as easy as holding a pen tightly in your hand and then opening your fingers and letting it fall on the floor.  You can let go of feelings the same way if you choose.  

You may need to do this more than once however I promise if you keep focusing on positive feelings, forgive yourself for anything you feel you could have done differently and forgive others for what you would have liked them to do differently any negative messages you are carrying in your head will disappear.

Decide what you want for yourself and go for it.  Take a walk, sign up for a class, take a special vacation, whatever it is you do, make it because that’s what you want to do, not what someone else thinks you should do or must do.

There couldn’t be a better time than now to think about yourself and what YOU want for the coming year and now is the time to set the goals and put together an action plan.  Just because there’s some kind of recession doesn’t mean you have to take part.   Think from a place of abundance and prosperity not from a place of scarcity and poverty.  You’d be surprised what a difference it will make. 

Take a look at my new Say Yes to YOU Business Accelerator Boot Camp starting on January 13th, which as my gift to you, has special early bird pricing until December 29th and also gives you the opportunity to speak with me if you have any questions about registering.  Go to   www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/bootcamp.html and check out all the details.

 My wish for you is that you have a happy holiday and a Happy, Joyful and Successful 2009 and that you Say Yes to YOU :)

‘Til Next Year
To Your Success and Brilliance

 

PS.  Remember to check out the special early bird prices on the New Say Yes to YOU Boot Camp now by visiting  www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/bootcamp.html

Times Are Changing – Are YOU Ready?

Things are certainly changing in the world.  The US is having a recession and from what I hear things are not so great in the rest of the world either.  However, having said that, this is not a time to buy into fear which is what the media would have you do!

Just because things are different doesn’t necessarily mean they are worse.  Some of the worst economic times have created the most financial business success for people.

The most important thing is not to give up or give in.  Don’t listen to the news constantly especially last thing before you go to bed.  This will only cause stress. Remember to think as positively as possible.  Read, listen to and watch positive joyful things.  Check out my good friend Alexandra Watsons blog for a dose of happiness thinking.  She’s the UK’s leading Happiness expert and each week shares some of her highly successful information at http://happyhelp.politicsandthecity.com  Now is a great time to discover her significant secrets.

Remember you can achieve whatever you want in this life whether we’re in a recession or not.  It’s just about believing in yourself and keep moving forward.

If you really want to get on track take a look at my brand new business telephone boot camp starting in January and check out the Early Bird Prices at www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/bootcamp.html.  You will receive personalized coaching with me and a very limited number of entrepreneurs.  If you’re really ready to go to the next level and want 2009 to be your most successful year ever check it out Now. www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/bootcamp.html

The most important thing to remember is not to buy into fear.  Just because there’s a recession doesn’t mean you have to take part.  I don’t choose to, you can do this too?

‘Til Next Time
To Your success and Brilliance
 

PS.  If you’re ready to make huge changes visit
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3 SURPRISING Roadblocks to Permanent Financial Peace of Mind

I’m doing this a little different this week. 

I like, when possible, to give people access to as many professionals as possible who teach the kind of things I do but sometimes in a different way.

I really want you to hear about this very special class with a  colleague of mine Janet Majoulet-Foust who is a leading  prosperity teacher and creates enormous success for clients who work with her.

On Thursday, December 4th you will discover the  3 SURPRISING Roadblocks to Permanent Financial Peace of Mind.  Join me for the upcoming complimentary (this means FR.EE!) teleseminar call Janet  is holding on Thursday, December 4th at 8pm ET /5 pm PT.
 
When you attend this powerful call, you'll be eligible for more than $2,500 worth of ADDITIONAL bonuses that Janet’s put together for you!
 
All you have to do is register for the FR*E teleseminar and be present at this must attend session today!
 
Reserve your seat now at:
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Plan on arriving at least 5 to 10 minutes early. More than 1,000 people are expected to register for this teleconference and only 500 lines are available! The only way to make sure that you get a seat is to register AND be one of the first 500 on the line!
 
If you're looking for wealth strategies to add to your growing business or life success this could be IT!

To Your Success and Brilliance
  

Are You Ready and Clear About What YOU Want?

My grandson turned 7 this past weekend and as I watched him play basketball with his friend it was very clear that he definitely knew what it was he wanted.  He wanted to score goals and that’s what he focused on doing as they ran around throwing the ball from one to the other.  They didn’t think about what they didn’t want only about what they did want.

As you come into 2009 don’t focus on what you don’t want, become really clear about what it is you do want!  In order to attract and manifest what you want it’s very important to know what it is.  Don’t just think you know which is what a lot of people do, be really sure.  Write down how you would like your ‘ideal’ life and business to look.

Create the picture in your mind, make an action plan, stay focused and keep moving forward with that picture in mind just as my grandson had the picture in his mind of shooting the ball into the goal and he scored more often than not because he knew what he was going for.

Always remember that although reaching the goal is important, it’s just as important to enjoy the journey.  Don’t give up be persistent and persevere.  Everything is about energy so keep your energy high.  Have fun stay in the moment and know that it’s not about perfection it’s just about staying on the path and taking one step at a time.

‘Til Next Time
Happy Thanksgiving

 

PS.  Check out the FREE teleconference on Thursday November 20th, 3 Key Secrets to Creating an Entrepreneurial Empire. 6.30p.m. – 7.45p.m. EASTERN. www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/teleclass.html
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Live and Work Fearlessly – Say Yes to YOU!

Hi Folks,

Well it’s been a few weeks since I last wrote and since then many changes have occurred everywhere.   Here we’ve changed the name of our masthead to Say Yes to YOU Coaching which makes more sense given that I’ve been teaching clients this for over 25 years, the US has a new President and the world is it seems in a financial crisis. 

I am constantly hearing from clients and people in general that they are anxious and afraid because of the economy.  So let me first address fear.  The nemesis of almost everyone

Yes, we’re in a recession and it’s normal to have some anxiety as long as it doesn’t rule your life.    Fear is not real, it’s just a thought in your head and it can only play a role if you allow it!   It’s not that it’s wrong to have fears or doubts, you’re human and truthfully if you said you never had a fear or doubt I’d be a little concerned. 

It’s not about never having a fearful feeling its how you deal with it when it happens.  Don’t wait until you feel anxious make the choice in advance to have a positive thought you can replace it with.  Just because we’re in a recession doesn’t mean you can’t achieve success and create financial freedom.  In fact, often in these times people earn more money.  

The other thing that happens when people buy into fear is loss of confidence and belief that they can achieve what they want.  Did you know that over 85% of people have self esteem issues?  Unfortunately research shows this to be true. (By the way men have the same fears, doubts they just deal with them a different way!)

I primarily work with women solo/entrepreneurs who often work from a home based office.  When you are focused on building your own business working alone can sometimes seem very daunting.  Here are 3 tips that can make your days more motivating and less overwhelming.

Somewhere in the background have some pleasant music playing, no vocals, just music. (it doesn’t need to be right in your office.)  Nothing too loud or noisy something that soothes your spirit and your soul and helps you to feel more motivated.  I actually use big band swing music or classical depending on the day :)

Use some kind of day planner very diligently.  If your days are scheduled in an organized way it will allow you not to just be busy but to work productively and will alleviate overwhelm.  Always make sure that somewhere each day you take a minimum of 10-15 minutes for yourself. Not to run errands or play with the kids or whatever, this time is just for you.  Take a walk, read a book, watch a half hour sitcom (I tape old comedy series especially for these times) laughing releases tension so laugh as much as possible during the day.

If you can’t afford a VA yet check out your local college and see if there’s a kid who’d either like to earn some extra money or you can also get someone as an intern.  This way you are teaching someone the rules of the game so to speak, you get some work done to take off the overload and a few hours a week you have company during the work day.

There are many more tools and techniques that can be used to overcome fear and doubt and help you to be productive and motivated, these are just a few.

So, right now don’t buy into fear, decide not to be part of this recession and keep moving forward one step at a time.

‘Til Next Time
To Your success and Brilliance
 

PS.  I have some great FR*E teleconferences coming up the first of which is on November 20th at 6.30p.m. Eastern – The 3 Secrets to Creating an Entrepreneurial Empire.   All the classes will be recorded so even if you can’t attend live, register and you will be sent the link to the MP3. Register Now to save your spot. http://www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/teleclass.html

PPS.   To be notified of all future teleconferences sign up for our free 6 lesson ECourse and International Monday Motivator at  www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com

Are You Buying into Fear?

It’s been a couple of weeks since I last posted and a lot has happened in the world since then that is creating a great deal of fear in people, especially here in the US.

Although there is definitely a recession I have chosen not to be part of it.  Will it affect me yes,  my retirement fund is losing money fast!  Am I going to go through every day living fearfully, absolutely not!   

I’m in touch with reality however, I decided I’m not buying into the frenzy that is going on.   

You can either buy into the fear or let go!  If you don’t have control over a situation what’s the point of spending each day being afraid of what might happen tomorrow, next week or next year.   Suppose it never happens, you will have spent all that time being stressed for nothing. Catastrophic thinking not only plays with your mind, it also causes stress which is the internal response to an external event.

Take some action if you need to.  Cut back if necessary. Clip coupons on and offline. Stop buying expensive Starbucks. Carpool.  Do whatever you need to do, just don’t buy into fear.   Check out sites like www.Thriftyfun.com,  www.gasbuddy.com.  You can find almost anything online these days including coupons for discounts.

Every time a fear comes up, acknowledge it and then replace it with something positive and move on.   I know you might be saying easier said than done however, it really is easy to do and very simple.

Live your life fearlessly with power and don’t buy into anything you read or hear.  Journalists and media have to have something to use as fodder and for now this is it. Not everything you read is true!

‘Til Next Time
Joy and Blessings
 

Never let anything or anyone 'keep you down'.

I’m sharing something a little different this week, however I also think it’s very relevant not only to life but in business.  The foundry operations manager said, “they knocked us down, they can’t keep us down.”  Even in business remember that when you have challenges, even when you make mistakes (not failures) you learn from them.  Never let anything or anyone 'keep you down'.”  Keep taking action, persevere and you can achieve anything you really want in life.

Until I received an email with this, I wasn’t aware that the steel from the Towers had been used in any way so if you already know this forgive my ignorance.  However, I do think it needs to be known so please pass this information on.

Here SHE is, The USS New York, made from the World Trade Center USS New York It was built with 24 tons of scrap steel from the World Trade Center . It is the fifth in a new class of warship - designed for missions that include special operations against terrorists. It will carry a crew of 360 sailors and 700 combat-ready Marines to be delivered ashore by helicopters and assault craft. Steel from the World Trade Center was melted down in a foundry in Amite, LA to cast the ship's bow section. When it was poured into the molds on Sept 9, 2003, 'those big rough steelworkers treated it with total reverence,' recalled Navy Capt. Kevin Wensing, who was there. 'It was a spiritual moment for everybody there.'

Junior Chavers, foundry operations manager, said that when the trade center steel first arrived, he touched it with his hand and the 'hair on my neck stood up.' 'It had a big meaning to it for all of us,' he said. 'They knocked us down. They can't keep us down. We're going to be back.'

The ship's motto? 'Never Forget.'  Please let others know about this so everyone can see what we are made of in this country!

What are you attracting?

About six months ago I decided to start observing the patterns and behavior of people in business to see what it is that the most successful and wealthy of them do that makes the difference between making it and struggling.  I also had some very interesting conversations.

One of the most obvious things I've discovered, apart from the fact that they set specific goals, (usually written) make commitments and then take the necessary action is that they mix with successful people.   This brought me back to something I heard many years ago from some hugely successful entrepreneurs.   If you want to be successful make sure the people around you are successful.  If you want to make money, mix with people who have money, if you want to be infused with positive energy have positive people around you, if you want to be happy mix with happy people, spiritual people and so forth.

So, my friends take a deep breathe.  Close your eyes for a moment and go inside, reach deep into your own power and intuition.  Just breathe and relax.
Attracting what you want in life is about energy, yours and the people around you.

Take a look around you and notice the people in your life.   Do they think and talk positively?  Are they living in the now?  Are they truly committed to taking action to move forward?  .  If you're not working with clients/customers who you're truly happy to be working with, don't.  If you're in a job you don't love, find one that you do or start thinking about becoming your own boss.  It’s not nearly as challenging as people think. 

I know that if I someone's home, car or office are a mess there's a lot more chaos going on in their head than they are willing to admit. Don't let this be you.  Get real; get honest with yourself about yourself and what you are doing and tolerating in life.   Allow the energy within and around you to be flowing easily so that you can attract the abundance and success you want in life in all ways.

Release any kind of poverty (lack) thinking, just let it go and know that any fear you might be holding onto is not real, it's just a thought and probably not even one you originally created.

Breathe and Relax.   How are you going to live your life?  Who are you going to surround yourself with?

Life is too short not to live it the way you want, remember it's about "Saying Yes to YOU."

'Til Next Time
Have a fantastic week
To Your Success and Brilliance

PS.  If you haven't registered yet and really want to make changes I'm facilitating a FREE Teleconference on Thursday September 11th at 3p.m. EASTERN, Three Secrets of Successful Entrepreneurs PLUS a very special time sensitive invitation.   It's being recorded so if you can’t be on the live call register anyway and you will be sent the recording link. You won't want to miss this call.  www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com/class.html

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